Office by Alex Penny
Getting it all out.
YOU DON’T OWE YOUR PARENTS ANYTHING
IT WAS THEIR CHOICE TO HAVE, KEEP AND RAISE YOU BUT IT WASN’T YOUR CHOICE TO BE THEIR CHILD
ANY EXPECTATIONS OR IDEALS THEY TRY AND ENFORCE ON YOU ARE BULLSHIT IF YOU DO NOT AGREE WITH THEM
THEY SHOULD ACCEPT THEIR CHILD AS THEY ARE NOT JUDGE THEM ON A MINOR DETAIL THAT DOESN’T AFFECT THEIR LIFE
DO NOT FEEL BAD IF YOU AREN’T THE PERFECT CHILD YOUR PARENTS THINK YOU SHOULD BE
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19 Things To Stop Doing In Your 20s
1. Stop placing all the blame on other people for how they interact with you. To an extent, people treat you the way you want to be treated. A lot of social behavior is cause and effect. Take responsibility for (accept) the fact that you are the only constant variable in your equation.
2. Stop being lazy by being constantly “busy.” It’s easy to be busy. It justifies never having enough time to clean, cook for yourself, go out with friends, meet new people. Realize that every time you give in to your ‘busyness,’ it’s you who’s making the decision, not the demands of your job.
3. Stop seeking out distractions. You will always be able to find them.
4. Stop trying to get away with work that’s “good enough.” People notice when “good enough” is how you approach your job. Usually these people will be the same who have the power to promote you, offer you a health insurance plan, and give you more money. They will take your approach into consideration when thinking about you for a raise.
5. Stop allowing yourself to be so comfortable all the time. Coming up with a list of reasons to procrastinate risky, innovative decisions offers more short-term gratification than not procrastinating. But when you stop procrastinating to make a drastic change, your list of reasons to procrastinate becomes a list of ideas about how to better navigate the risk you’re taking.
6. Stop identifying yourself as a cliche and start treating yourself as an individual. Constantly checking your life against a prewritten narrative or story of how things “should” be is a bought-into way of life. It’s sort of like renting your identity. It isn’t you. You are more nuanced than the narrative you try to fit yourself into, more complex than the story that “should” be happening.
7. Stop expecting people to be better than they were in high school — learn how to deal with it instead. Just because you’re out of high school doesn’t mean you’re out of high school. There will always be people in your life who want what you have, are threatened by who you are, and will ridicule you for doing something that threatens how they see their position in the world.
8. Stop being stingy. If you really care about something, spend your money on it. There is often a notion that you are saving for something. Either clarify what that thing is or start spending your money on things that are important to you. Spend money on road trips. Spend money on healthy food. Spend money on opportunities. Spend money on things you’ll keep.
9. Stop treating errands as burdens. Instead, use them as time to focus on doing one thing, and doing it right. Errands and chores are essentially rote tasks that allow you time to think. They function to get you away from your phone, the internet, and other distractions. Focus and attention span are difficult things to maintain when you’re focused and attentive on X amount of things at any given moment.
10. Stop blaming yourself for being human. You’re fine. Having a little anxiety is fine. Being scared is fine. Your secrets are fine. You’re well-meaning. You’re intelligent. You’re blowing it out of proportion. You’re fine.
11. Stop ignoring the fact that other people have unique perspectives and positions. Start approaching people more thoughtfully. People will appreciate you for deliberately trying to conceive their own perspective and position in the world. It not only creates a basis for empathy and respect, it also primes people to be more open and generous with you.
12. Stop seeking approval so hard. Approach people with the belief that you’re a good person. It’s normal to want the people around you to like you. But it becomes a self-imposed burden when almost all your behavior toward certain people is designed to constantly reassure you of their approval.
13. Stop considering the same things you’ve always done as the only options there are. It’s unlikely that one of the things you’ll regret when you’re older is not having consumed enough beer in your 20s, or not having bought enough $5 lattes, or not having gone out to brunch enough times, or not having spent enough time on the internet. Fear of missing out is a real, toxic thing. You’ve figured out drinking and going out. You’ve experimented enough. You’ve gotten your fill of internet memes. Figure something else out.
14. Stop rejecting the potential to feel pain. Suffering is a universal constant for sentient beings. It is not unnatural to suffer. Being in a constant state of suffering is bad. But it is often hard to appreciate happiness when there’s nothing to compare it to. Rejecting the potential to suffer is unsustainable and unrealistic.
15. Stop approaching adverse situations with anger and frustration. You will always deal with people who want things that seem counter to your interests. There will always be people who threaten to prevent you from getting what you want by trying to get what they want. This is naturally frustrating. Realize that the person you’re dealing with is in the same position as you — by seeking out your own interests, you threaten to thwart theirs. It isn’t personal — you’re both just focused on getting different things that happen to seem mutually exclusive. Approach situations like these with reason. Be calm. Don’t start off mad, it’ll only make things more tense.
16. Stop meeting anger with anger. People will make you mad. Your reaction to this might be to try and make them mad. This is something of a first-order reaction. That is, it isn’t very thoughtful — it may be the first thing you’re inclined to do. Try to suppress this reaction. Be thoughtful. Imagine your response said aloud before you say it. If you don’t have to respond immediately, don’t.
17. Stop agreeing to do things that you know you’ll never actually do. It doesn’t help anyone. To a certain extent, it’s a social norm to be granted a ‘free pass’ when you don’t do something for someone that you said you were going to do. People notice when you don’t follow through, though, especially if it’s above 50% of the time.
18. Stop ‘buying’ things you know you’ll throw away. Invest in friendships that aren’t parasitic. Spend your time on things that aren’t distractions. Put your stock in fleeting opportunity. Focus on the important.
19. Stop being afraid.
THIS.
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I’ve realized…
All I ever want to be in life is a role model.
I want children to look up to me and wish to be like me. I want parents to look at me and appreciate me more than my parents ever have. I want people to look at me and think, Damn, he’s got his life together.
I just want to be good, God damnit.
I don’t smoke or drink to set an example to little kids. I pursue happiness over everything to show that happiness is what makes the world go round. I’m a cheerleader to represent the face of many organizations and to show I’m fearless. I was an honor student because I loved learning. I was involved in performing arts because I appreciate such complex, yet simplistic beauty.
I try, I really do..
I just want to be good..
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DerekThe other day, I was talking to one of my coworkers about an attractive man that I would wish to talk to. And I’m terrified of talking to people. So one thing she said to me that made me rethink everything about my approach on relationships was:
What if he’s your soulmate?
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whenever u feel sad just remember that there are billions of cells in ur body and all they care about is u
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Sometimes.. I have to remind myself that I’m not normal.
I love and appreciate my friends because they make me feel normal.
And, I feel accepted and I feel like I belong.
But, at the end of the day, I lay in bed and think about how I’m different than all of them.
I’m not a person you could describe to someone who has never met me.
Well, you could. But you’d use the word “gay”.
And.. I should werk it, but.. Bottom line, that’s who I am. And I am a minority.
And I am part of a certain group that many people “fear”.
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It’s an interesting process that children go through.
Not children, but rather.. Teenagers.
We finish high school and we’re thrust into the “real world”. Which isn’t the real world at all considering approximately 75% of high school graduates are still fully financially supported by their parents. Straight out of high school.. It is assumed that each child should know what they want to be, and if they don’t, their life is already a couple of years behind. It’s a sad thought.
And not only that… Life is short. Every individual with education dedicates about 20-25 years to education. That’s nearly a quarter, or 33% (according to the average life span in the US), of an individual’s life.
And throughout this WHOLE process, adults eagerly nag children about what they want to be when they grow up. Eagerly guessing what this child is going to be. Waiting.
In a way.. Teenagers are eggs. Adults pick at our shells and try to find out what we’re going to hatch to become and the second we hatch, we’d tell them our future occupation.
It’s a little sad to think about it. We make career choices based off of income and happiness. But for the first time.. I’m starting to admit to myself that I just want to be happy.
Just want to be happy.
And there’s no career for that. I can’t get paid for smiling or laughing or having fun.
I want to live with money. But I couldn’t be a doctor, lawyer, or a surgeon. I would hold people’s lives in my hands too often and that’d destroy me emotionally.
I love baking and I wish to open my own cafe. But I would throw away chances for travel because of the low promise of income.
I love fashion and I want to be a part of a fashion magazine. But education for fashion is limited and there aren’t any reputable Universities that hold fashion merchandising majors. (And reputation counts).
I’ve lost all motivation to even continue with my education.
I just want to live.
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When I become close friends with people, I become happy knowing I can argue and debate with them.
And this question is always something I ask.
First.. Let me define some key terms and outline certain ideas. Intelligent, aware of the world good or bad, people are normally sad because they see all the darkness in the world. While naive - or unaware - and happy people are happy because of this lack of understanding regarding the world’s darkness.
Typically.. Intelligent people work towards a long term goal that builds their happiness eventually, but they run into a great deal of sorrow on the way. While.. Naive people work towards short term goals that make them happy in that moment.
Personally, I would like to be naive and happy. Just because I’m intelligent (eh) and sad right now, and it sucks. I’m not saying naive people lack the skills to think, but because I’m not oblivious to my environment and the world, I let my thoughts consume me. And through all these thoughts, I study people. I study their actions towards me and what thoughts and events led up to these actions.
It’s more than an understanding of the world.. It’s an understanding of human relations.
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